Whether it’s a job application or a man you’ve had your eye on for months, rejection is never easy to get over. But, before you decide to lock yourself indoors and wallow in self-pity, here are some ways you should handle rejection.
1. Step Back
Take a deep breath and get your thoughts together before reacting. Compose yourself before you say or do something you might regret later. Whether it’s lashing out at a man who has just rejected you or wanting to send a nasty reply to a “thank you for your job application but…” email, it’s important not to act in a rash manner. The news will hurt at that point in time but it’s important for you to take some time to analyse what just happened, then decide what you should do next.
2. Accept It
As with most negative situations in life, acceptance is very important here too. And part of getting to the acceptance stage involves dealing with your emotions. So whether it’s having a chick flick marathon while eating ice-cream, drinking a bottle of wine (do stop after one though) or joining a martial arts class to let off steam, do whatever you need to let out your emotions. And do talk to someone about it, whether it’s a friend or a family member; talking goes a long way when it comes to acceptance.
3. Don’t Get Personal
Even if you’ve been rejected by a man you’ve been dating, never take it personally. Being rejected doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you per se, so let go of that thought. Thinking that way will only make you blame yourself for what happened, which will lead to a downward spiral of depression and self-pity. So get rid of that “I’m not worthy” mindset now.
4. Learn From It
It might sound like a cliché but the truth is, rejection almost always has the possibility of making you a better person. Life is about ups and downs and how you react to situations defines your personality. Remember that it doesn’t define who you are and take this time to think about the good things in your life, reflect on yourself and your life, and how you can grow from this experience.
5. Move On
Don’t dwell on the situation or hold a grudge against the person who has rejected you. You can’t change something that’s already happened so don’t waste your time and energy thinking about “what ifs”.