Why you're having an orgasm alone, but not with him

1. You're not telling him what gets you off

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While it’s pretty straightforward for your man to achieve climax, he might be finding it hard to get you off. After all, as all women are wired differently, what he’s done with past partners can’t necessarily be applied to you. That being said, it’s important for you to communicate what you like and don’t to him. Keep in mind that it might take a while for him to get used to the motions so be patient and show him exactly what you like by guiding his hands down there, if needed. 

Sex is supposed to be a fun experience for both parties so remember to communicate and give each other opportunities to learn and teach.

2. You're not comfortable "letting go"

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For some women, having their partner see their o-face can be pretty embarrassing. However, this overthinking could result in the inability to experience orgasm. 

Mental aspects are just as important – if not more – as the physical aspects of sex. Getting in the right mood, being fully aroused, and letting go of inhibitions can make all the difference when it comes to having amazing sex and achieving orgasm.

3. You're used to one way of having an orgasm

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Perhaps you’re more used to attaining clitoral orgasms than vaginal or perhaps, you’re just used to using a vibrator instead of penetrative sex. Whatever the case, there are multiple types of orgasms so it really is about trying to find out what works for you and having the patience to get there with a partner.

4. You're passive about getting off

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Can’t seem to reach orgasm through penetrative sex? Integrate toys into the mix or rub your clitoris to help you get there. There’s a common misconception that people are solely responsible for the orgasms of their other half during sex when in reality, it’s a team effort. While it’s impossible for the two to consistently achieve orgasm at the same time, couples should be working together to help each other finish.

5. You're not switching things up

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Perhaps, the reason you’re not achieving orgasms with a partner is because you’re always doing the same things in the same positions and in the same places. The lack of excitement might cause you to feel bored in bed.