8 of the most annoying online dating habits, according to men

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Posting unrecognisable pictures of yourself

“[Attractive photos are great], but I’d appreciate it if girls post more recent and accurate ones too. Wouldn’t want to start a conversation with some deception!”

– Dunstan Ong, 24, business developer

Acting differently online than you do in real life 

“There’ve been instances where I meet a chatterbox online, but she clams up in person. It’s like she’s a totally different person. Perhaps she’s turned off by the conversation topics or by my face, but it feels [like her online persona] was nothing more than a facade.”

– Nicholas Chew, 26, event coordinator

Fishing for a free lunch 

“I really hate being used as a human ATM. Once, a girl I had just met suggested that we go to a posh restaurant for our first date. When it was time to foot the bill, she promptly excused herself to visit the ladies’ room! She later confessed she meets guys online for free meals. I never contacted her again.” 

– Chan Yip Seng, 34, risk analyst

Taking your time to reply

“I get annoyed by women who rarely seem to want to initiate conversation. When you reach out, they take 12 hours to respond

to a simple ‘hi’.”

– Denny Boey, 27, lawyer

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Dwelling in the virtual space

“I don’t get why some women like to chat online for a long period of time before meeting up. Wouldn’t it be better to meet up as soon as possible, then decide if you want to continue to spend hours chatting on the phone?”

– Thomas Tan, 30s, head of wealth management

Giving monosyllabic answers

“I find one-word responses irritating. Reply with something a little more open-ended to keep the flow going. For instance, end with a question.”

– Damien Tan, 27, bank analyst

Setting high standards

“It’s always difficult to get women to respond positively to you (or even respond at all!) if they have high standards. The usual introductions don’t work and you sometimes have to come up with witty lines just to get them to acknowledge you.”

– Marcus Goh, 26, graphic designer

Remaining vague about the relationship status

“Let’s say we’ve been on one or two dates and have texted for about a month, then what? Are we more than friends? I’ve met girls who text more than five guys a day. It’s like these women just want the attention without the commitment.”

– Shawn Ow, 24, chef

This story was first published in the January 2017 issue of Her World magazine. 

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