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9 tips to writing beautiful, timeless wedding vows

Here's the thing when it comes to writing your wedding vows: it's all in the details - from the day you first met, to adorable moments, and more.

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#1 Give yourself time
It's never a good idea to start writing your vows the night before, or moments before the wedding. Unless you're immensely talented, or you're looking to pen a slipshod message that probably won't impress your husband or your guests.


#2 Look for inspiration
Just like how you've been looking around for inspiration for your dress, decorations and other aspects of your wedding, your vows should be no different. Thanks to Google, there are now templates, quotes and pointers on how to word them.


#3 Look back
Think about your relationship history, how you met, when you realised you loved him, when you shared your first significant moment together, and so on. Also, think about your quirks, things you like and dislike about him or yourself, and then piece everything together into two to three succinct passages.



#4 Make a few promises
These are called wedding vows, and promises should be a part of them. Whether they're serious (where you make everlasting declarations of love till death do you part), or hilarious (like promising not to spoil dinner too often), these should be personal, heartfelt, and applicable to the both of you.


#5 Look to others
If there's a couple (real or fictional) who have inspired you or your relationship, you can include examples on how you'd like to be more like them in your vows.

You can also look to movies, poems, stories or other celebrity couples for romantic lines to "borrow".

During their wedding in Langkawi, local comedian and host included this in his vows to actress Jesseca Liu:

"If I can only love you for four days, it will be in the Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter. If I can only love you for three days, it will be yesterday, today and tomorrow. If I can only love you for two days, it will be in the good times and bad times. If I can only love you for one day, make that each day that I breathe."


#6 Determine a time limit and format with your husband-to-be 
You can keep your actual vows a secret if you're looking to surprise him, but do discuss and agree on several pointers. After all, you don't want to be caught looking unprepared or long-winded next to his and vice versa. (See: 10 grooms' wedding day confessions)


#7 Don't reveal too much information
How much is too much? You should draw the line at sharing embarrassing things your husband-to-be may not be comfortable with revealing.



#8 Practice makes perfect
Once you're done, practice reading your vows out loud or to a trusted friend or relative. Your vows should sound clear, conversational (and not as if you're reading out loud from a book), and shouldn't sound too curt or sappy.

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#9 Make a clean copy
Whether you're printing them in a specially-made vow book as a memento, or you're just reciting your vows from a piece of A4 paper, just make sure you can read it on the day of, and not fumble around 'cause your handwriting's illegible.