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With our constantly busy lifestyle, it takes time and effort to maintain a healthy sex life. Having good sex doesn’t mean that you’ll always need to spice things up like adding a few toys here and there. It can be as simple as doing something different for a change. Here are nine ways you can to be better in bed, especially if you're planning sexy time this Valentine's Day.
Tell him what turns you on
Research suggests that better communication is key to better sex, and no, we don’t necessarily mean dirty talk. Communicating what you like and don’t like can be instructional and informative as you get to know each other’s bodies. If he’s doing something you like, say so that relying on ambiguous gestures or noises.
Praise your partner
In a 2016 study published in the Journal of Sex Research, researchers analysed answers from 39,000 heterosexual couples that were married or cohabiting for over three years. Sexual satisfaction reported to be higher among couples who revealed that they gave each other positive affirmation during sex and were open enough about embarrassing moments during sex to joke about them and move on.
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Even great sex can start to feel monotonous over time if it’s more or less the same old routine. Try to mix things up. Try role-playing or take a bath together. Be inventive, and have fun.
Think of foreplay
Foreplay should start long before sex even begins. Make sure to be attentive to your partner. Small gestures and nice comments are significant to setting the right mood for sex.
Exercise improves circulation in the body, and that includes the blood flow to your genital area, consequently increasing the desire and lifting your mood.
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Go for morning or afternoon sex
Have sex in the morning. Set the alarm 30 minutes before your usual time and see what happens. Men's testosterone levels peak in the morning so you might be pleasantly surprised. Another alternative would be to have afternoon sex on weekends. Interestingly enough, women tend to ovulate in the afternoon, meaning that the optimal hormone level for female sexual desire happens at that time.
Talking during sex stimulates more than our ears. What kind of talk? Dirty, praising and instructive are a great way to start. A woman’s words can make a guy feel potent.
Other than the bed
There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so you can use your imagination and come up with as many weird and wonderful inventions as you desire. Simply changing locations can dramatically change the position, so consider this too (think places such as the top of the washing machine, on a bench, beanbag or table).
Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge them. Want to open yourself to these possibilities? Try making a game of it. If you’re both comfortable, give it a shot.