turkey couple.JPGPHOTO: www.i100.independent.co.uk

Instead of a lavish affair with a grand banquet on the final night, Esra Polat and Fethullah Uzumcuoglu, did something not many newlyweds would think of doing on their big day. The couple put together a party to share their wedding celebrations with the less fortunate. It was Fethullah’s father, Ali Uzumcuoglu, who first came up with the idea.

The groom’s friends were said to be so inspired, they are planning on similar events for their own weddings.

Here are three things we can all learn from this big-hearted couple.

1. Sharing is caring
Weddings in Singapore are traditionally grand affairs too, especially Chinese weddings, with 8- to 10-course dinners, depending on the couple. If you’ve got extra food (guests who ended up being no-shows), decorations, and others, consider sharing them with the less fortunate. Other ways to give back: make donations to charities in your guests’ names in lieu of favours.

2. Be open to ideas
It may be your big day, but don’t be averse to listening to alternative suggestions others may have. According to www.i100.co.uk, the bride was “shocked” when she first heard about the idea from her groom, but “was won over by it”. In the end, she had a “wonderful experience”, and she was “happy that we had the opportunity to share our wedding meal with the people who are in real need.”

3. Your wedding’s not all about you
Instead of being served, this couple was behind the counter dishing out food to the thousands of hungry refugees. While we may not have to do the same here, it’s important to remember that your wedding is also about your loved ones, so do take their wants and needs into consideration, too.

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