Alice Han, 63, Editorial Support Manager
Married for 33 years
“I will tell myself to remember to take the good and the bad – be patient and endure your spouse’s shortcomings, as he has taken yours.
Endurance is very important to keep a marriage going.”
Cynthia Lee, 51, Administrator
Married for 28 years
“Love and submission, to live by the truth (the word of God and Jesus – who are our guides to grow closer and stronger in our relationship), sharing the same vision and to think of ‘us’, not ‘I’.
It’s not a smooth path, but we have learned to trust, hold on, and live out the vows we first made as husband and wife. Even though we’re going to reach our 25th year next January, we are still learning every day.”
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Velda Tan, 48, Housewife
Married for 20 years
“I’d accept my husband for who he is unreservedly instead of trying to change him. Never take him for granted, and listen completely all the time.”
Jessie Ng, 43, Coordinator
Married for 14 years
“I’d ask him to accept me for who I am and not ask me to change my behavior, even when he thinks I am wrong and that he is right.
I’d tell myself to not take his bad behavior or attitude all the time. When you’ve been married for so long, all the nonsense will come out, so some of the vows you exchanged initially may be no longer be valid or achievable!”
Estelle Low, 31, Writer
Married for 3 years
“I had 10 points in my vows when we got married, and at the time, it seemed personal and romantic. But three years on, I realised I haven’t been able to fulfil some of them, such as cycling around Pulau Ubin with my husband as I have a phobia of cycling!
I’d advise couples to be realistic, not be too specific with their vows, and don’t over promise unless you’re very sure you will be able to keep to your word.”
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