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Terence Lim talks about falling in love with Jade, staying out of the limelight and taking charge of their wedding preparations.

What was your first impression when you initially met Jade?
Super Ah Lian! She had on white socks that went all the way up to her knees. My first thought was, wow, she is the prettiest girl I’ve ever seen. My next was she must feel really warm in those socks.

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How did you pursue her?
I was super shy when I was 15 so I did not pursue her then. In fact, we didn’t really talk until 13 years later when we reconnected by chance and she didn’t even recognise me. After that, we started to get to know each other better.

Time and age do help to build one’s confidence and social skills. At 28, I was a lot more comfortable in social situations and my skin was thicker. So I simply started conversing with her like a regular friend and over time, things took their natural course and we got closer.

I think my perspective on life helped a lot in our relationship. Through the years and after many hard lessons, I’d come to realise and accept that things happen for a reason and can’t be forced. If something’s not meant to be, it will never happen.

Reconnecting with Jade after so long was something I believed was planned by a force more powerful than us. My gut told me that I just needed to be myself and things would naturally flow. I think that really made the difference because our relationship was very real from the start. And, as much as she complains about me being difficult, I think Jade actually likes that about me.

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“The most loving thing we have ever done is to promise to love and support each other in good times and bad.” – Terence

What do you love most about Jade and what irritates you?
People who meet us for the first time say that we are so different; the complete opposite of each other. That’s exactly what I love about her. She completes me. And because of that, she reminds me of what I need to be better at, which helps me recognise my strengths.

Being so different has also been frustrating at times. For example, she is an extrovert who loves socialising while I’m the complete opposite. However, such differences have helped me to grow and push myself to improve, and get out of my comfort zone.

How do you manage your relationship with Jade?
I tend to be more analytical while Jade is more open and communicative about issues. These traits may not complement each other but can be important in sustaining a long-term relationship that we both work hard at.

How do you deal with her public image and fame?
It helps that I am a practical person and relatively easy-going. Most people are passionate about something in their lives and that passion usually has consequences. For Jade, it’s being recognised in public and I’ve had to embrace that. What’s more, I have had the benefit of inspiring role models in my life, so I really hope that some day I can inspire people the way Jade does.

You had a major say in your home’s decor. Are you as involved in your wedding?
Yes, I am quite detail oriented and once I have a vision, I single-mindedly work towards that. I am leaving the gown, flowers, photography and video to Jade while I plan the rest because I enjoy doing creative things – although I work in a supposedly non-creative industry.

What is your hope for the future?
I honestly don’t think marriage will change anything between us. We see love as created by God. Getting married in church is our way of giving thanks to Him for bringing both of us together, and renewing our commitment to each other. We simply just want to remain committed to each other for the rest of our lives. 

This article was originally published in Her World Brides Sept – Nov 2014. Look out for our interview with Jade, here.