Along with the arrival of the New Year comes personal resolutions and goals like weight loss, getting a new job or giving up alcohol (yep, and we all know that’s not going to happen especially with all the wedding parties coming up).
But how about something for your marriage life? Here, some to get you inspired, and of course, these aren’t just for the start of the new year but for each and every day of your happily ever after.
Disconnect to connect
How often does silence fill the air over a dinner date or in the bedroom because the both of you are mindlessly scrolling Instagram, Whatsapping or indulging in a game of Mobile Legends? We’re guessing more often than not. The most obvious thing would be to stash the phone away, preferably in your bag or in the next room (if you’re at home) to keep from reaching for it.
Bedroom antics aside, nonsexual touch is crucial to keeping romance alive. We’re all creatures of touch. When you first started dating, you might not have been able to keep your hands off one another so don’t let it stop now. Make it a habit to indulge in a little cuddling when you’re watching the telly, place your hand on his knee while he’s driving, just holding hands while strolling down the street or a surprise peck on the forehead when your spouse is least expecting it.
Plan little surprises regularly
You don’t have to wait for a special occasion to give your loved one a pleasant surprise. It can be something as simple as a surprise date at the bar when his favourite football game is on or topping up her gas.
For a surprise in the other department (yes, we do mean your sex life), spice it up – think outside of the bedroom, a surprise hotel room stay after a couple of drinks at a bar outside, or… going commando and not letting him know until you’re both in the bedroom.
Resolve to fight fair
Being mean is easy, being nice is the tough part. In the heat of the moment, it can take a lot out of you to not call names, pull out past transgressions or blurt out something you’ll regret once you’ve cooled down. Attack the issue, and not the person, and don’t downplay what your significant is feeling.
Try new things together at least once a month
When you’ve been together for a long time, it can seem like you’ve run out of things to do. But even on our tiny island, you’ll find new things and places to explore, if you know where to look. Participating in a new experience helps solidify your bond as a couple as well as brings new topics to your everyday conversation. Go for that rock climbing session you’ve wanted to but never quite got around to, check out exhibitions or try out couple projects, like tackling your DIY renovation.
Plan spontaneous trips
It can be as extravagant as your dream holiday to the African savannah or scaling a mountain or as simple as a day trip to next door JB. Whichever it is, travelling together makes for fun, shared memories that will last a lifetime.
Have time to yourself
Just as important as spending time together is spending time apart. Indulge in a new hobby or sign up for a new workout with a buddy. Having interests and a life of your own promotes a sense of independence which also strengthens your marriage.