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Living together? 5 important things couples often forget

You've agreed on divvying the chores and bills but there’s more to living in the same home 24/7, even when you’re in passionately in love with one another.
 

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#1 Time off 

You probably spend most of your time seeing each other. In this case, absence does make the heart grow fonder. Make the effort to schedule your own activities - it can be hanging out with your friends, hitting the gym weekly without your partner, visiting your parents alone or even planning a short getaway with a few of your pals. Your spouse will appreciate the space to himself or with his own friends as well. 

 

#2 Something new

Settling into a routine and letting the romance seep out of your relationship is way too easy when you’re living under one roof. Instead of just binge-watching drama serials or going for a movie/dinner date every week, make it a point to try something new at least once a month. It can be going rock climbing, or just exploring the various islands and resorts that are a short distance away from Singapore - you’ll be surprised at how experiencing new things together can bring that spark back into your relationship. 

 

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#3 Physical Space

You might be sharing a home but that doesn't mean you should be next to each other all the time. Have a comfy corner all to yourself - it can a spot in the balcony or a couch in the living room where you can do your own thing. See how else you can reduce the stress of living together in a small space

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#4 Communication

Got beef? Before it even gets to the point where every little thing triggers you, set it straight so the resentment doesn't build up. Some couples swear by settling every argument before going to bed, some prefer to cool down before talking it over. Whichever it is, nip it in the bud before letting it get in the way of damaging your relationship in the long run. Communicate not just what bothers you, but also what makes you happy too. Here are 7 ways to strengthen your marriage as well as 5 communication mistakes that can hurt your relationship.

 

#5 Having realistic expectations

Sharing your life together doesn't mean it's all fun and laughter - there are times when giving him/her a high-five with a stool might cross your mind. But always keep in mind - your partner should be someone you want to share your life with, and not become your entire life. And will come with his/her own quirks that irritate you to no end. A couple with a strong relationship can dislike each other at times but still remain in love and together. 

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