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Bridesmaids and groomsmen - the who, what and how of choosing your bridal party

We rounded up 6 major questions to help you with your bridal party formation.

Most of us would have the basics down – we choose our favourite people to be part of our bridal party and they’re usually our friends or sisters or cousins or they can even be your ex-neighbour.

But what about the other intricacies behind the making of your bridal party? Like who to be your maid-of-honour? Must there be the same number of sisters and brothers?

We rounded up these major questions to help you with your bridal party formation!


“Can I have more than one maid of honour or best man?”

Yes, there’s no hard and fast rule for this. If you can’t decide between your sister and best friend, it’s perfectly okay to bequeath upon them both the title.

In fact, this would even ease the workload since it shared among more people.


“Do I have to choose a maid of honour or best man?”

Again, there’s no definite rule about this. You can choose to go without a maid of honour, but do make sure that all the responsibilities and duties are divvied out among your bridesmaids.

“Can I choose to have a bridesman?”

Why not? In fact, this unconventional choice is becoming more common by the day.

If you’ve close guy friends whom you’ve been bros with since way back, and your partner is comfortable with the choice, you can definitely have them as part of your bridesmaids.

Attire wise, we’d suggest suiting him up in the same theme or colour as your bridesmaids. (See: 7 trendy colour palettes for your bridesmaids dresses)


“Must there be an equal number of sisters and brothers?”

There isn’t. (But if you’re a stickler for symmetry then do not pursue this.)

Traditionally, an even number was preferred as it meant the bridal party could be paired up for the walk down the aisle.

Nowadays, the ball is in the bride’s and groom’s court.

Pairing up neatly is fine and all, but if you don’t mind say, two bridesmaids walking down with one groomsman, then having any number of sisters and brothers is up to you.

“When’s a good time to start forming our bridal party?”

This could be anytime from right after you confirmed your engagement to after you’ve secured a wedding date or period.

A recommended gauge would be within two to three months after getting engaged.


“Should I go with a small or large bridal party? / How many people should be in our bridal party?”

There are several factors in this decision:

  • Do you prefer an intimate affair or a large wedding bash?

A larger affair means more responsibilities to oversee, and might be overwhelming if you’ve just a bridal party of 2.  At the same time, having too many bridesmaids at a wedding of less than 80 guests will look off-kilter.

  • Does your wedding budget allow a large bridal party?

You’ll need to supply the attires and red packets during the gate crash ceremony, not to mention the gifts of appreciation and such.

  • Will anyone be offended?

Be it being left out or being asked only because you’ve no one else to turn to. It’s a sensitive matter and it’s one that you’ll need to tackle with sensitivity and sincere consideration.


We bid you good luck and wisdom in your bridal party selection!