PHOTO: Xing Ling & Chun Yew’s wedding
Avoid:
- anything rude (not a good idea for a happy occasion)
- any rumours or gossip (always stick to the facts)
- anything about your past relationships or romantic affairs (the past is the past!)
- anything sexual (keep it PG-rated)
- nothing insulting or bitchy (friends won’t hurl any!)
- any pointed barbs ( same as above!)
- no revealing of secrets (they call them secrets for a reason…)
- anything negative (character flaws, habits or behaviour)
They can and should include:
- compliments (who doesn’t love a compliment?)
- something witty or funny (without sarcasm or hidden insults)
- touching or heartfelt tales and shared experiences (based on your friendship)
- inspiring anecdotes (another kind of compliment!)
- anything positive (especially about the bride or groom’s character and personality)
- something romantic about the couple (nothing about past relationships please)
- stories about the couples’ relationship (only the positive ones)
- best wishes and blessings
Lastly, remember the toast is not about him or her (so be sure to remind them gently if you feel they’re veering off-course), and they should keep it focused on the newly weds! See also 5 ways to make a winning best man’s speech and what to avoid in your wedding vows and speeches.