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What working parents in Singapore really need to feel supported

We asked working mums and dads what would actually help—and here’s what they said

By Karen Fong - 

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Singapore’s falling birth rate has sparked ongoing debate about how to better support families—but what do working parents actually need? We spoke to working mums and dads in Singapore to find out what would make a real difference.

A truly family-friendly workplace

Top of the list for many working parents is - unsurprisingly, more empathetic workplace policies and culture. “Childcare leave should be on a per child basis, at least until they reach primary school. Bosses shouldn’t expect employees to work regular overtime in the first year of having a new baby. They also shouldn’t contact the parent outside of working hours unless it’s truly urgent,” says Sim, a mother-of-one working in legal.

Both mothers and fathers we spoke to are realistic about this season of life, with many acknowledging the trade-off when it comes to their careers.

As a new parent, I recognise that my career progression may slow in this season – and I’m okay with that. I just wish there was a sustainable way to stay in the workforce without missing out on my child’s life, especially now. Employers could offer genuine flexibility where possible, and expand options like part-time or gig work.
Thomas, a new father

“Normalising time away or a reduced workload during parental leave would ease pressure to stay visible at work. It would also help reduce anxiety about falling behind while managing family responsibilities,” adds Ann, a mother-of-two who works in the finance sector.

Adjustments to the education system

“A later start for primary school would really help,” says Sarah, who works in manufacturing and has two children. “That way, evening and bedtime routines could be less rushed and stressful as kids wouldn’t need to wake up so early. It would also give parents more time to bond without worrying so much about school.”

I wish primary school education was more ‘complete’, whether in school itself or in student care, so that parents don’t have to stress about teaching their children after work.
Alex, father-of-two working in aviation

Recognising the role of dads

When it comes to family, mothers are still often cast as the default parent, carrying much of the invisible mental load that comes with raising children. But the parents we spoke to are pushing back against these entrenched norms—calling for a shift in how we view fatherhood, and for dads to be recognised as capable, involved co-parents rather than secondary caregivers.

I’m the primary caregiver because my job is more flexible, so I handle my kids’ bedtimes, meals and activities – but I know people still laugh at me for playing a woman’s role. Times have changed, and so should societal views of how a father should be.
Mason, a father-of-two who works in fitness

Adds Kate, a mother-of-two who works in marketing: “People have to realise that dads should be as involved as mums. My husband is very hands-on, but the social expectation is that I manage everything, not him. We share that role and society should expect, not be surprised by it.”

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