The Watcher: Why mirror sex is the sex trend you should try

Mirrors have many uses. We rely on them to check how we look before we leave home. We like to be surrounded by them in fitting rooms when we're trying on clothes. And we even love the small ones in our bathrooms that help when we're plucking our stray eyebrow hairs. But did you know that mirrors can also be an accessory when we're having sex? And that it could lead to increased pleasure for both you and your partner?

While some of us might not like looking at ourselves – or even having the lights on – while we're having sex, doing it in front of a mirror might actually be a good idea and could boost your sex life. We use items such as sexy lingerie and sex toys to spice up the action between the sheets anyway, so why not add another helpful one?

Mirror sex is, as its name suggests, having sex in front of a mirror. You don't have to go all out and install mirrors on your bedroom ceiling, though. Think your bathroom mirror or the one in your closet. The key is to use a mirror to enhance your pleasure and even add some variety to your sex life. 

Benefits of mirror sex 

The main perk of using a mirror during sex is that it increases visual stimulation. This leads to a number of benefits:

Increases intimacy

No matter what position you try, you're able to see your partner's reaction to what you're doing to him and vice versa. This improves communication as you're connecting with each other probably like you've never done before.

Makes you more open

It gives you the freedom to be as dramatic as you want and will unleash the exhibitionist in you. You'll both enjoy the performance. Do remember that mirrors are made of glass so don't get too animated!

Keeps you going for longer

The fun doesn't end when you're both satisfied. Watching each other get aroused will be something you won't forget for a while. And you can keep coming (no pun intended) back to those images whenever you want to. It's like having your own sex tape but much safer as it's only in your head and nobody can leak it online. 

Makes you more confident 

You'll see how sexy you look together while doing the deed. When you realise how happy you look – and how aroused you make him – it will improve your sexual confidence. You'll even want to experiment with different positions to see which view you enjoy most. 

It's a huge turn on 

It's a side of sex with your partner you've literally never seen before and can be extremely erotic. It'll make you more aroused and bold and give your sex life a boost.

So how do I do it?

How you do this depends a lot on what kind of mirrors you have access to, how big they are and whether they're movable or nailed to something. You also need to decide if you want a full-on view of both of you or you just want to get a glance at certain angles or body parts while you're having sex.

Start with foreplay: If you're not 100% comfortable with the idea but want to give it a go, you could start by just using it during foreplay. Slowly undress and touch each other in front of a mirror and watch yourselves getting aroused. 

Concentrate on your facial expressions: Or you can have sex but try positioning the mirror so you're only looking at your faces first. Dealing with looking at naked bodies can be the next step. Watch your facial expressions change while you're in the throes of passion and you might just want to get the full view next time.

Don't downplay basic positions: You don't have to experiment with adventurous positions or locations just to enjoy mirror sex. Place a mirror along the side of your bed and watch yourselves as you have sex on the bed in the missionary position. 

Try it during oral sex: Mirrors can also make oral sex hotter. Whether you're giving or receiving it, it gives you the chance to see all of your partner, which is a far sexier view than just the top of your partner's head. 

Try out positions with no eye contact: It's also especially exciting for positions that don't usually allow eye contact, such as doggy style or reverse cowgirl. 

Utilise your bathroom mirror: Another way is to watch yourselves in the bathroom mirror while you have shower sex. Just make sure the water isn't too hot though, as the mirror will get too fogged up. Keep the steam to what the two of you are doing and not the water temperature.