From The Straits Times    |

If there’s anyone we would willingly receive marriage advice from, it would be from the former president of the United States, Barack Obama. 

His marriage to Michelle Obama continues to give us real marriage goals, even after 25 years of marriage. 

Which begs to question, how did he know his first lady was and still is, ‘the one’ for him? 

Lucky for us, he shared some of his insights on marriage with Dan Pfeiffer, his former communications director, and Pfeiffer in turn shared it in his new book, Yes We Still Can: Policitics in the Age of Obama, Twitter and Trump.

In an excerpt from the book, Pfeiffer wrote that after learning that he was planning to move in with his wife, Obama told him there was three questions you should ask yourself if you definitely found ‘the one’: 


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“Here’s the advice I give everyone about marriage – is she someone you find interesting? 

You will spend more time with this person than anyone else for the rest of your life, and there is nothing more important than always wanting to hear what she has to say about things.

Does she make you laugh? And I don’t know if you want kids, but if you do, do you think she will be a good mom? 

Life is long. These are the things that really matter over the long term.” 

When Pfeiffer replied that his wife was “incredibly interesting, funnier than I am, and will be a phenomenal mom”, Obama approved of his choice. “Sounds like she’s the one. Lucky you.”