This is what you should wear if you’re a guest at a Malay wedding

Finding the perfect outfit for a wedding can be tricky, especially when different cultures have their own traditions and customs. While most wedding ceremonies are fairly relaxed when it comes to attire, Malay weddings have a few unspoken guidelines worth keeping in mind. From avoiding certain colours to embracing the celebratory spirit with vibrant hues, here’s what you need to know to dress appropriately and respectfully for the occasion.

1. Traditional Malay wear

Guests traditionally don the Malay traditional wear - Baju Kurung or Kebaya. The two-piece Baju Kurung is modest (typically loose-fitting) yet very feminine, so it has become a staple in a Malay woman’s wardrobe. 

2. Avoid revealing clothes

Don’t worry if you don’t have a Baju Kurung. You can wear whatever you feel comfortable in too - for instance, a loose tunic with your favourite pair of pants, or a maxi skirt with your chosen top. Anything goes, as long you dress conservatively, as a mark of respect to the newlyweds and their family members. 

3. Weather-appropriate 

Since afternoon receptions can get hot and stuffy - especially when held in venues without air-conditioning, you might want to wear something loose and airy. 

4. Avoid dressing sloppily

Even if the wedding is held at your void deck (your neighbour’s wedding), you should avoid dressing too casual. Dressing sloppily (wearing shorts, tank tops and slippers) is disrespectful to the hosts and the bride/groom.

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5. Business casual 

Depending on the venue, there’s also no need for you to wear anything too formal. Business casual is your safe bet! As a guide, wear whatever you would wear to a fancy restaurant. 

6. Menswear 

A pair of well-fitting jeans and pressed shirts are the norm for men. Complete your outfit with a pair of dress shoes and you’re good to go!

7. Avoid wearing black or white

Malays don’t typically follow the concept of lucky colours, but when attending a Malay wedding, it’s best to be mindful of traditional customs. White is traditionally reserved for the bride and groom, so it’s a good idea to steer clear of all-white outfits. Similarly, black is often associated with mourning, making it less suitable for the joyous occasion. Instead, embrace the celebratory spirit by opting for bright, vibrant attire that reflects the festive atmosphere of the wedding.

8. Dinner reception 

While most weddings are in the day, a couple may choose to have their reception in the evening instead. Dinner is usually a more lavish affair and may be held at country clubs, restaurants, or hotel ballrooms. This event is considered more formal compared to the afternoon reception, and dressing up is required. If the couple has a dress code, do adhere to it.

9. Solemnisation 

In contrast, if you are attending the “Akad Nikah” otherwise known as the solemnisation ceremony, dress more conservatively, as it is a more solemn and religious event. If it is held in a mosque, female guests are advised to wrap a scarf around their heads and dress decently.

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