13 celebrities share their post-wedding & marriage tips

Blogger and influencer Andrea Chong (better known as @dreachong on Instagram) tied the knot with her beau Imran Rahim in March this year. She had been sharing the process of their wedding planning on her blog and on her socials, so it was clearly a heartbreak when she announced that she would be postponing her wedding reception to the latter half of the year due to the Covid-19 pandemic.

Despite the hiccup that the couple faced, Andrea attested to the love and support that the duo had for each other during this tough period.

“We may have to wait an indefinite period for our wedding reception – but I think the fact that we have remained so calm and even candid about the whole situation attests to our unity as a couple. On the evening we decided to postpone the wedding, I remember we both looked at each other, I gave him a hug and we kissed – I felt calm with my decision. It was sort of an unspoken telepathic understanding that everything will be alright and that we have each other,” she shared on her blog, The DC Edit.

Andrea also had some words of advice to couples who are facing the same setbacks: “If your wedding is affected by the virus, and if you are feeling exhausted, weary and defeated... I only have this one thing to say to you: nothing is more important than you and your partner, and the people around you at this point in time. If you and your family are healthy, and if you have them and your friends by your side, that is all that matters.”

We couldn’t agree more.

Kim Tae Hee & Rain

2/13

During an interview, the actress told Harper’s Bazaar Korea:

"I think as long as you can laugh making silly jokes together, it doesn't matter even if you are not talking about something special (with your partner).

Yet, when there's something you have to decide together and your opinion is different from your partner, you need to try hard to respect the other person and talk a lot."

Jesseca Liu & Jeremy Chan

3/13

With her third wedding anniversary with actor Jeremy Chan coming up next month, actress Jesseca Liu shares with us her secret to a happy marriage:

"Consistency is the key to a successful marriage. A happy wife, a happy life. Husbands should always praise and compliment their wives, and vice versa. I also believe couples should conscientiously make an effort to keep the flames of love burning – and this is even more crucial after the wedding. If there are romantic traditions that you shared before marriage, like weekly date nights, it’s important to keep them going. Also set aside regular together-time and practice patience."

Read the full interview here.

Grace Chan & Kevin Cheng

4/13

The TVB actors who tied the knot in a beautiful Bali wedding, had to deal with naysayers on their age gap.

In 2016, the actress told ST how their relationship works despite being 21 years apart:

"We're equal partners in the relationship. It's not like one is the sidekick to the other.

We're both the superheroes in this sense. Whenever we're together, I'm happy and comfortable enough that I never feel like a shadow."

Barack & Michelle Obama

5/13

There's no power couple like the Obamas and the two, who have been married for 28 years, have often shared their how they managed to keep their marriage strong.

In a keynote conversation with CBS anchor Gayle King in July, Michelle Obama shared, "It’s so important to marry somebody that you respect. It’s important to marry somebody who is your equal, and to marry somebody and to be with somebody who wants you to win as much as you want them to win."

In fact, here are 9 lessons Barack & Michelle Obama have taught us about love.

Kate Pang & Andie Chen

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6/13

The couple, who have two kids together, shared with 8days on how they cope with keeping the spark alive while managing their roles as parents:

"This year, we laid down a rule that we must set aside one day a week to go on a date — watch a movie, sing karaoke, anything. We just felt like we needed couple time.

With the kids around, it’s very hard for us to do things that makes us have the feeling of being in love. So we had to force ourselves to be away from the kids temporarily.

A happy marriage equals to happy kids.

At the end of the day, we both agree that the joy the kids give us helps to balance the differences in our marriage as well."

Jade Seah & Terence Lim

7/13

The host and actress shared with us her top three tips on marriage:

Stay connected. Make time for each other and go out on dates to spend quality time and explore new environments together. When you stop being connected is I think when the relationship stops working. It’s very easy to fall into a pattern of “disconnectedness”, so make the effort a habit and do it daily.
Remember to be thankful and look inward. It’s very easy to compare, whine and complain about your partner not doing enough for you and for the relationship – but what have you done lately? Make the effort first and treat your partner how you want to be treated.
Speak up. This is my biggest tip for all relationships! If you don’t tell your partner what you want, how would the other person ever know? I am personally terrible with picking up hints and innuendos while my partner is much more perceptive. I truly believe that a lot of relationship problems stem from things not being said – and people being disappointed at unmet expectations after. Tell your partner what you want. Tell your partner what is great – and also what is unacceptable. Tell your partner when they have done something right and show appreciation when they do.

Tavia Yeung & Him Law

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8/13

Another Hong Kong celebrity couple we love, Him Law shared with Jayne Stars on how his relationship with Tavia Yeung stays solid:

“We both support each other – we don’t really do anything special but we always praise and support each other if we do something good. If something’s not right, we voice it.

Honestly speaking, there aren’t a lot of people who tell the truth in this industry – very few are honest with you. Everyone will tell you that you’re handsome – it’s endless! In reality, how many people actually give valuable advice?

Tavia was an inspiration to my work and personal life. People are often affected and influenced by each other.”

Ada Choi & Max Zhang

9/13

Hong Kong actress Ada Choi & Chinese actor Max Zhang have been married for 11 years and have just welcomed their their third child. What's their secret to a healthy union?

On Chinese reality program My Dearest Ladies , Ada Choi revealed, “We’ve been together for 16 years and have gone through what others might be facing. The most important thing about love is not to hope for the other person to change, but to respect his or her feelings. Men need respect. Women need love. He would know how to love you then.”

Priscilla Chan & Alan Tern

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10/13

As told to Her World Brides, local actress Priscelia Chan shared her secret in maintaining a happy marriage with her husband:

“I guess it is our strong friendship which is the foundation that enables us to feel secure about ourselves, to be accepted and loved for who we are individually in this relationship.

It creates this understanding and trust that is really an important pillar in our marriage.

Always show affection and tell them you love them. Be sensitive to each other’s emotions, moods and needs!

If there’s a quarrel, we would keep quiet and cool down before talking it out.

Golden rule: sharing and understanding each other's point of view regarding the issue and dealing with it honestly and rationally."

Gu Hye Sun & Ahn Jae Hyun

11/13

After falling in love while working on the same drama, the two actors got married in 2016.

In a live broadcast during the actress’s art exhibit, she shared her candid and sincere views on her marriage:

“Things are great in general. There are many happy moments.

[While] married life isn’t always filled with joy, it’s nice for the most part. It’s very different from living alone, and you also spend more time pondering over things.

I don’t recommend getting married just because you have a fantasy about it, but it does have many positives.”

Sheila Sim & Deon Woo

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12/13

In an interview with The Singapore Women’s Weekly, actress and model had this to say on how they manage their differences and arguments in marriage:

"People underestimate the power of tolerance. So many times, I may get annoyed with my husband, but if I just hold my tongue, the issue will blow over. So you need to pick your battles and learn when to hold back.

Fight objectively, and quarrel logically - which means to fight about the heart of the issue, and not about past baggage and emotions, because that will just open up a can of worms. I'm still learning how to do this, actually."

Cheryl Miles & Matthew Nixon

13/13

Our June 2018 issue's cover girl had this to say on making a relationship work:

“Finding the right person to share that with is more than just learning "to love yourself first."

You have to be open, ready and have the right balance of courage, vulnerability, independence and selflessness to give, and receive, love.”