You might have heard the term ‘tantric sex’ before but, chances are, most of us know close to nothing about it. Common bits of information include the fact that it’s a marathon sex session and that your orgasm lasts for hours. So is this true? And how are you actually meant to achieve this?
What is tantric sex?
The practice originated from India more than 5,000 years ago. Its main emphasis is to be in the moment with your partner and is a meditative approach to sex. It’s when you remove all distractions that take away from the experience of sex, to fully enjoy the various sensations. The aim is to gain a deeper connection with your partner by keeping your body relaxed and your mind clear of everything else.
The goal in tantric sex isn’t the Big O (although it’s fine to have an orgasm), but instead to enjoy the sensation of arousal and all the joys that come (no pun intended) with it. This is because there are many spine-tingling moments that take place before you reach the finish line so don’t ignore them. If you have orgasms, they’re usually more earth-shattering than usual and you’ll get there sooner too, since you’re in tune with what’s going on.
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So how do you do it?
Set the right atmosphere
Turn your bedroom into a sanctuary of sorts, where you not only shut out (both physically and mentally) everything else but also awaken your senses. Fill it with things like aromatherapy oils, scented candles, your favourite relaxing music and fabrics like silk, which will make you feel more sensual.
Get into position
Sit on your partner’s lap on the bed or floor, facing him. Close your eyes and pay attention while you breathe in and out (your man does the same too). When your breathing becomes relaxed, start rocking – towards each other as you inhale and the opposite direction when you exhale. Once you get into a comfortable breathing rhythm, clench and unclench your pelvic floor muscles to match it.
Look at each other
Now open your eyes and stare into his. Eye contact adds to the intimacy and leads to a deeper connection. For even more pleasure, adjust your breathing so that you’re inhaling as he’s exhaling, then go in for a kiss.
Note that you don’t have to be in this position to enjoy tantric sex. Turn your sessions into more than just reaching orgasm; instead, enjoy the pleasures of touching, kissing and teasing each other. Focus on the moment, have fun and you might just end up with an electrifying sexual experience like never before.