Let’s face it. Even those with the healthiest libidos (fans of midday quickies and shower sex, we’re looking at you) are bound to hit a sex slump at some point. Blame it on stress or the mundaneness of everyday life, especially if you’re cooped up in the house with the same people, same routine.
A sure way to get the blood rushing and juices flowing would be to book a staycation. After all, there’s nothing like a change in environment – fresh sheets, romantic scents, aromatic bath soaks and breakfast in bed – to supercharge your desire. But for cheaper and more sustainable ways to keep good sex going, turn to these tips.
It’s no secret that exercise drives up your endorphins, the hormones that make you feel relaxed and happier. Choose workouts of moderate to high intensity, such as running, interval training and yoga flow, that elevate your heart rate and get you pumped up. Just be sure to avoid over-exerting – you’ll need some energy for lovemaking later.
Change the location
Having sex in the same place makes it too familiar after a while, dampening the level of excitement. Try taking your activities outside the bedroom – the shower, kitchen or even on the floor of your living room, if space permits. Just being in a different environment that is not usually associated with sex can be a huge turn-on. Of course, feel free to use the props that come with the territory: bath gel, whipped cream and fluffy cushions – in your sex play.
Schedule it in the AM
Apparently, one of the best times to have sex is early in the morning – even though your breath might stink and you’re half-conscious of what’s happening! Experts agree that mornings are when a man’s testosterones are at their peak. Plus, both of you are at your physical peaks after a (presumably) good night’s rest. So go ahead and set your alarm for 15 minutes earlier.
Another way to spice things up: Role play, dress up in a risque costume or find some sex games online to play with your other half. Like having sex outside the bedroom, it’s all about adding something unexpected with a dash of novelty to keep your sexual experiences fun!
Try new positions
When the usual sex positions (hello, missionary) feel predictable and boring, it’s time to try new ones: try spooning or downward dog for when you’re tired but still want something different, the rocking horse or butterfly for more intense pleasure, or simply let your zodiac sign guide you here. Exploring new positions is great, but choose those that you can achieve physically. Safety first.
One of the biggest barriers to great sex is tension and nervousness. If one of you isn’t in the right physical and mental state for sex, you won’t enjoy it no matter how much effort goes into the lovemaking. One of the best ways to get into the mood is to have a massage. Do a light and sensual massage for each other using aromatic oils – it relaxes both the body and mind, and lets you enjoy foreplay before the main event. You can also discover each other’s pleasure spots during the massage and focus on these areas during lovemaking.
Experiment with toys
There are a plethora of sex toys in the market to help you heat things up. Consider lubes and oils too, which are available at sex shops. For the more adventurous, consider food items you can lick or eat off your partner’s body. Play with the sense of touch with ice cubes and hot, steaming fabrics that can tease and heighten pleasure.