It’s normal to get very comfortable with your partner after a long period of time together. You may no longer stress about anything or even – to a certain extent – make much of an effort anymore. This is all well and good (we can’t be bothered to keep shaving anyway) but there is a fine line between that and being stuck in a rut. Fear not, it doesn’t mean you should end it, you just need to bring your relationship back to life. Here are seven signs you’re getting too comfy with your man.
You no longer argue
It’s not good to be constantly fighting but arguing every now and then is a sign of a healthy relationship. So when you get to the point where you don’t even bother to disagree with each other, you’ve pretty much reached the ‘whatever’ stage of your relationship. And being complacent with your partner is definitely a no-no.
You talk about the same things
It seems like your conversations always revolve around a few things, such as how your day went, what you’d like to eat or discussing how that so-and-so down the road invited you both to their birthday party next month. The common theme here is that they’re mundane conversations about your day-to-day lives. Remember how you used to talk about your hopes and dreams when you started dating? Yes, you might have exhausted those topics but you’ll never stop discovering things about each other so if you’ve continuously run out of things to talk about, it could mean you’re in a rut.
You’re no longer spontaneous
Every couple vows never to become predictable but, unfortunately, it happens very often. Sticking to a routine is fine once you’ve been together a while and have established a sort of schedule with each other – it doesn’t sound sexy but that’s the truth! However there should always be spontaneity in a relationship. So whether it’s a surprise holiday, a present for no reason whatsoever or a sudden decision to rejig the furniture in your flat, it shows that your relationship is alive and healthy.
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You lead separate lives
It’s important to have your own space when you’re in a relationship but leading two separate lives is another story altogether. If he never wants to do the things that you want to or refuses to go out with your friends – or if it’s you who doesn’t ever want to see his friends – it’s time for a chat. Compromising is an essential part of being in a relationship so if you both can’t manage this, it’s not a good sign.
You’re stuck in front of the TV or glued to your phone
Modern life comes with so many distractions, gadgets being the biggest culprits, but don’t let them ruin your relationship. If you find that you’re paying more attention to what’s on Netflix or checking Instagram over dinner, rather than actually talking to your partner, you might have reached the relationship dead end. Make a u-turn and fix this situation as soon as you can.
You’re just not feeling it
Don’t expect to be constantly in love with your partner. It’s normal to sometimes feel like you’d rather be alone or wonder why you’re in a relationship in the first place. But if these feelings don’t go away or occur often, talk to your partner, figure out how he feels and decide what you both want to do.
You often think of the good ol’ days
You find yourself constantly thinking about how hot the sex used to be with your partner (it’s just functional now) or how he used to love your family and friends (he mostly avoids them now). If all your happy days only belong in the past, you might have got yourself stuck in the daily grind and perhaps have neglected your relationship. But it’s never too late to create new memories so claw yourselves out of the hole and get back into the groove.