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KEEP YOUR EGO IN CHECK
Do not talk too much about yourself. Actress Nadiah M Din believes it is a deal breaker.
“The worst thing that someone can do on a date is talk too much about their past dates or how proud they are of themselves.”
Unfortunately for her, she has had to endure dates who were incredibly self-centred.
“I went out once with a model, who was admittedly cute, but he was obsessed with himself. It felt like he thought he was George Clooney and the other guys around him were William Hung,” she said, of the American Idol reject.
“He was so vain that he kept checking himself out in the mirror or any reflective surface he saw.”
The model’s vanity went even further.
“He kept asking me if he was really cute – even though he knew he was good looking.”
Nadiah added: “Yet, he pretended to be insecure just so that I would keep telling him, ‘Yes, you are really super good looking.'”
ONE FM DJ Jill Lim has also suffered dates boasting of how much they earned.
She said: “They like to show off that a $200 steak is nothing to them because of how much they earn. That is a deal breaker.”
DON’T FAIL WITH THE BILL
ONE FM DJ Jill Lim ended up having to pay for a date, who was a virtual stranger, on Valentine’s Day eight years ago.
She said: “My original date stood me up to go out with my cousin. So I crashed my friend’s date with his girlfriend.
“To not let things get too awkward, he invited along a guy to make it a double date – and he simply assumed that I would pay for him (the guy).”
It may come as a surprise that Lim did pay for her date’s meal, but it is no surprise that there was no second date.
Fellow ONE FM DJ Cheryl Miles said she would prefer if the man picks up the bill – at least for the first date.
“It is just my very old-fashioned thinking,” she said.
Miles admits that not every girl shares her view.
She said: “Even if he does not pay for the date, I absolutely hate it if he is very calculative when splitting the bill.
“I have gone on dates where they meticulously calculated how much I ordered.
“That is a big turnoff,” said Miles.
FOCUS ON YOUR DATE, NOT YOUR PHONE
Actress and host Jade Seah said mobile distractions are a turnoff during a date.
Seah recalled a second date with a man who could not tear his eyes from his device.
“He was constantly on his phone and hardly looked up at me or spoke to me.”
Instead of letting herself become a third wheel to her date and his phone, she called him out on it.
“I told him, ‘If you are busy, maybe we can meet up another day. After all, I am busy too, and I am here to spend time with you.'” Her date quickly took the hint and put aside his phone.
If your date does spend a lot of time on his phone, take Seah’s advice and don’t suffer in silence. It is rude behaviour, date or not.
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY
Especially if you are not feeling well during the date. That was what DJ Mike Kasem learnt after his “worst date ever”. It was 18 years ago with a singer he had interviewed for MTV Selec. They made plans to meet up when he visited Los Angeles.
Kasem said: “I was down with a cold, but I couldn’t cancel as I was in town only for a short time. I decided to power through it, with the help of Tylenol.”
But he didn’t realise he had taken Tylenol PM – a painkiller to be taken at night and which tends to make one very drowsy.
“During dinner, my eyes started closing.”
Making it worse, Kasem tried different types of alcohol to wake him up – which was the wrong thing to do.
“She asked if I wanted to call it a night as I looked like I was tired and bored,” said Kasem. “Instead of being honest, we continued on to a nightclub – one that had many celebrities around.”
Soon after, his stomach did not feel too good and he started to perspire profusely. The pills and booze combination meant Kasem ended up making five trips to the bathroom.
DON’T COME ON TOO STRONG
One of Cheryl Miles’ worst dates was one that did not happen.
Her potential beau texted her just before they were to meet to say that his credit card was not working.
She suggested rescheduling.
Let’s do something that doesn’t require any spending.
Miles said: “Reading between the lines, I could tell that he meant it in a sleazy way and expected me to go home with him. So I just didn’t reply and blocked him on WhatsApp.”
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