The issues of unequal pay, sexism, and gender barriers are well known challenges women face in their workplace. While some of these issues are gradually being addressed, females in power positions continue to face entrenched gender bias. For some, that adds pressure when managing their own expectations, for others it results in overcompensating for being, well, female.
“We entertain stories that the various voices in our heads tell us, all the time,” cautions Janice Chua, a life and career coach at Janice Chua Coaching. “Often, we allow the negative stories to take hold, for instance “you’re not good enough” “what are others thinking of you”, “you’re too bossy of a lady”, and the list goes on.”
To get round this, Chua advocates becoming one’s strongest cheerleader by telling stories that grow us instead.
“What about ‘I am a force to be reckoned with’, ‘I am strong, I know what I’m talking about’, ‘I take charge because I care’. Start entertaining those awesome stories about yourselves and in time to come, the voices that serve to bring you down will get fade into the background.”
Here, she recommends ways to reframe challenging scenarios and turn them into wins.