It’s a cold hard truth: many of us have likely been touched by an affair or cheating in one way or another. Whether we’ve only seen it on the big screen, heard a friend’s teary tale or been the one doing the sneaking around, an affair is a concept only too familiar.
As to why a man or woman might stray from their partner, well, there are many reasons. We reached out to sex therapist and educator, Jacqueline Hellyer, to find out the common ones.
Reduction of sex and intimacy is common among couples whether or not cheating has already occurred or not. This lack of sex and intimacy can increase one’s temptation to cheat.
There may simply be a sexual incompatibility issue and some women are looking to fulfill their sexual needs. A relationship may have an emotional connection without a physical one.
Women may feel their partner is being emotionally abusive or talks down to her. Whatever the reason, feeling mistreated is one of the reasons women seek other options and cheat.
Just as men feel the urge to sow their wild oats, some women have an inner sex kitten just waiting to be unleashed – and when the beast escapes from the cage, look out.
It’s common for couples’ sexual interest to dip when they get “too comfortable”. Then, they start to expect certain things and lose appreciation for each other, leading to sexual dissatisfaction.
Women may feel they don’t have enough time with their partner actually being together, discussing things, and looking at each other. Whatever the reason, they just don’t feel enough intimacy and desire.
Some women may feel insecure about their partner or the relationship as a whole, and seek security elsewhere.
Sex can be an instant pick-me-up; a self-esteem booster that makes women feel sexier, more beautiful and more loved.
Some people may feel a sense of stagnation or routine in their marriage, and seek excitement and novelty through an affair.
Some women do not want to hurt their partner’s feelings, or they do not know how to break up with someone so they will cheat in order to provide reasoning for the breakup.
This article was originally published in, additional reporting by Natalya Molok