Couples going through fertility treatments are understandably facing a lot of stress. Not only are the doctors’ appointments and treatments a lot to take on, they can also have an impact on the couple’s relationship. And it’s especially difficult when trying for the first child. Grief is also a big part of infertility. Whether it stems from a miscarriage or a failed fertility procedure, grief often involves stages such as denial, anger and depression.
So the last thing anyone undergoing treatments like in-vitro fertilisation (IVF) or intrauterine insemination (IUI) wants is more stress. Unfortunately, infertility is an alien concept to many so it’s hard to know how to react to someone telling you about it. While some comments are due to ignorance or the inability to empathise with infertility-related issues, sometimes they may come across as downright insensitive.
Here are 10 things to avoid saying to your friend or family member going through fertility treatments, according to women who have been through or are going through it.