Allen and I hadn’t discussed dating each other exclusively. We didn’t even talk about our previous relationships or entertain the prospect of us having a future together. I didn’t think that was unusual, because it had only been a few months, we hadn’t met each other’s friends or relatives, and we weren’t in love yet. I was quite happy to go with the flow and see where the relationship took us. I didn’t consider Allen my boyfriend but he did often tell me that he was slowly falling for me and wanted to see where we’d end up. I was over the moon when I heard that.
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After about five months of hanging out, Allen suddenly stopped contacting me. He usually called or sent me text messages a few times a day, but suddenly, all communication from him stopped. Every time I called his mobile phone or sent him a text, I got no response.
It was a confusing and frustrating time for me. I couldn’t understand why Allen would cut me off; we hadn’t argued and neither of us said that we didn’t want to see the other again. In fact, on our last date we’d talked about where we would go and what we’d do the next time we saw each other.
It didn’t take me long to forget about Allen. I was sad and disappointed but not heartbroken or devastated. I knew he’d ghosted me, but I also knew I hadn’t done anything wrong and that he was the one with the problem. For the next several months, I barely thought about him.
