Think he likes you more than you like him? These 10 tips will help keep it casual
Just because you like him does not mean you HAVE to be in a relationship too
Whether it’s because you just broke up with someone and aren’t looking for anything serious or you’re just not into commitment, having a no-strings-attached relationship is one way to enjoy being with a man without any of the usual relationship dramas. It’s not for everyone but it’ll only work if you do it right.
Here are 10 rules to follow if you’re keeping it casual.
The man you pick should never be someone you have ever had feelings for. So stay away from your ex or that guy you used to have a crush on. And never do it with a friend either.
It might work out in movies but it’s dangerous ground and you might end up losing your friend so don’t even go there. It’s best to choose someone you know, possibly an acquaintance or a friend of a friend.
Put your cards on your table at the start and make sure that both of you are on the same page. You have to communicate to each other what you’re looking for so that neither of you can be blamed for not being honest or not meeting the other’s expectations.
You don’t want it all to literally end in tears, do you?
If you do things that regular couples do – such as going out to dinner, to the cinema etc – you’ll end up behaving like a real couple and it can get complicated separating the situation from what’s actually happening. Make it a point to only hook up over the weekends, for example, and don’t have any form of communication during the week.
There’s no need to send ‘how was your day?’ messages to each other because if you’ve established that it’s going to remain casual, sharing your daily thoughts and feelings shouldn’t matter.
There might not be many hard-and-fast rules but there are definitely certain boundaries in a casual relationship. For example, accept the fact that you have no control over what the other person does when they’re not with you. So never ask questions that cross this invisible line.
And, if he ever does something that you feel is overstepping these boundaries, confront him about it because even if you’re just casual partners, he should never get away with making you feel awkward in any way.
You might be having fun with just each other or you might have agreed to both of you seeing other people at the same time too. Whichever the case, getting jealous of him talking to or hooking up with other women is a big no-no.
Jealousy denotes that you are either a control freak or you have feelings for this person – whichever the case, it’s not a situation you want to find yourself in.
You might have an unspoken agreement that you’ll spend every Saturday night together but that shouldn’t mean that you block out every other possibility for that night.
The fact that it’s casual means that you don’t have any ‘set’ plans with – or responsibilities towards – each other so don’t let them run your life. Keeping it casual also means you shouldn’t ‘care’ either way whether you get so see each other on a particular day/night or not.