5 reasons why sex with an older man is better

He most likely knows sexual anatomy by now and has had enough sexual experiences to know what is “down there” without a ‘map’. This means he knows your pleasure zones, from your clitoris and G-spot to other erogenous zones.

He is more self-assured, and as such knows what he needs, wants, and desires sexually. He’s perfectly capable of articulating them, and showing his partner precisely how to do it if needed. He speaks up sooner and doesn’t blame and shame when things don’t feel right or feel good to him.

He’s more relaxed and doesn’t try as hard, and this extends to the bedroom. He receives pleasure from giving and from receiving pleasure. Sex is a mutual exchange of energy, pleasure, and play–it isn’t about racing to the end. He is not orgasm- and ejaculation-focused and sees sexual encounters as quality time.

He recognises it is important for a woman to have prolonged foreplay because it takes her a longer time to get up to the level of arousal needed to orgasm. He’s also more likely to relish the cuddles and feel-good effects from our oxytocin hormones being released immediately after sex.

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He’s probably not as sexually threatened if asked to try out sexual aids like vibrators and sex toys. In fact, he might even have handled some of them before. He is also open to many other things sexually, or might be happy to introduce you to them if you’re game.

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