4 popular sex fantasies and how you can make them happen

Whoever said that sex should only be in the confines of the bedroom? How about shower sex, or sex in the living room when the rest of the family is out? You can start off with something as innocent as a back scrub during shower time. Tell your partner how it felt doing it for him and ask if they would like to do more in the shower–it’s really about taking progressive steps and getting a sense how both of you feel about it before going all the way!

Different people have different inclinations, and while some might be more visual or kinaesthetic, others are auditory. Erotic talk can be awkward if you are self-conscious about your pronunciation or language capacity. But if that is the case, why not request that your partner read aloud erotica to you instead? Start off by listening to them together, discuss how they make you feel, then have him read out some scenes to you. Some sites you can check out include Dipsea, Audiodesires, Lierotica, Emjoy, and Aural Honey.

Role playing in the bedroom can be as simple as enacting or amplifying what you do at work. Cliché lines like “Coffee, tea, or me” if you’re playing secretary (or are one) can bring fun, play and laughter in the bedroom. There might be undoubtedly some shyness around doing something new but it’s not about getting the script or scenario down pat. Rather, it is just about using your imagination to have some fun.

Being dominated is a common sex fantasy of women as it can invoke feelings of being desired and surrender. In this scenario, we can create boundaries so that we can safely surrender to our partner in exactly the way we want. It is important to discuss the scene, props and even safe words before the deed takes place, and there should be an understanding that this is consensual play-acting and not a reflection of your character.

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