Don’t let the way you think about your thighs, belly or breasts kill your confidence between the sheets. Take a tip from these women, who still manage to turn up the heat in the bedroom despite their perceived body hang-ups
“I’m very self-conscious about my flat chest, even though I know it doesn’t bother my husband. To make sex more enjoyable – and create a little cleavage – I sometimes wear a padded push-up bra or push my breasts together with my hands.
While these tricks don’t change the size of my breasts, they give the illusion of a fuller chest, which makes me feel a whole lot sexier.”
“One of my breasts is bigger than the other, looks more conical than round, and points in a different direction from the other breast. I’ve always had an issue with it, so during sex I like to cup both my breasts in my hands and squeeze them.
It takes the attention away from their differences in shape and size, plus, my guy gets turned on seeing me touch my breasts that way.”
“I’m happy with most of body; it’s just my thick, flabby thighs that bother me. My partner says he doesn’t care how they look but it bothers me, because every time we have sex I can feel them jiggle, and their size alone makes certain positions uncomfortable.
“No matter how much I exercise, I still can’t rid of my ‘jelly belly’. To make things worse, my hubby likes having sex with the lights on. Rather than conceal my tummy I just let it hang out during sex, but I’ll switch off the main light in our bedroom and turn on the lamp on our side table instead.
The dim lighting gives the room a romantic vibe and makes my belly rolls less obvious at the same time, and my husband gets to see all of me. It’s a win-win for us both.”
“I know that vaginal odour is totally normal but, depending on the time of the month, my natural scent smells fishier than usual. I always make sure to wash my genitals before having sex, but sometimes, no matter how thoroughly I cleanse the area, I still feel self-conscious, especially when my boyfriend is performing oral sex on me.
To combat the problem I burn scented candles in the room and I leave non-scented feminine wipes close by. When it’s time to have sex after a session of making out, I’ll quickly wipe myself down there to freshen things up.”
“I have the worst morning breath – even my husband will attest to that.
Unfortunately we also both love morning sex, so, to avoid breathing into his face while we’re doing it, we tend to stick to the spooning sex position. Because we’re both on our sides and my husband is behind me, there’s no way my morning breath will hit him, so I can moan as much as I want without him ‘suffering’.”
“After giving birth to three children, my vagina just doesn’t look as ‘pretty’ as it used to be – everything’s just stretched out and I’ve got flesh hanging where there never used to be any.
It doesn’t bother me that much, except when I’m having sex, so to avoid feeling self-conscious I try to draw my husband’s attention to my breasts instead. Sometimes I’ll also talk my husband into having doggy-style sex so that my vagina is not in full view.”
“Most women would kill for my butt, but I personally think it’s too big. Sometimes it gets in the way of my enjoyment of sex and the way I move.
My husband loves it, though, so we usually go with sex positions that take advantage of the size of my butt. The doggy-style and reverse-woman-on-top positions, for instance, give my man a great view of my behind and give him something to hold on to.”
“I perspire easily, and with that comes body odour – not to mention, major embarrassment. Unfortunately, even a mildly vigorous sex session leaves me sweaty, even if the room is air-conditioned or I have the fan on full-blast.
So if I know I’m going to have sex I’ll make sure to shower thoroughly beforehand and apply lots of antiperspirant.
Most of the time, my partner and I will also massage each other as part of foreplay. We use essential oil-based body lotions, which are beautifully scented and take my mind off the way I smell.”