It’s great to be an independent woman who is self-sufficient in every aspect of her life. However, ‘no man (or woman) is an island’ indeed and we need others to thrive. Why isolate yourself and strive to be Superwoman when you can do things with other people? Getting help from others – or even just needing someone – doesn’t at all make you weak so don’t knock it.
Whether it’s in your professional or personal life, remember that it’s your life and you have your own path and way to get through it. Just because your colleague got a promotion after one year and you’re stuck at the same level doesn’t mean that you’re not good enough and should just give up. Let go of what everyone else is doing in their lives – thinking about other people’s ‘achievements’ will only bog you down and stress you out for no reason.
Toxic people come in all shapes and sizes – and in all areas of our lives – but it’s sometimes hard to pick them out until it’s too late. Nevertheless, as soon as you realise that someone isn’t making you happy, feel free to cut them out of your life. Say goodbye to that colleague who only talks to you when she wants to exchange gossip, that friend who only calls you when she needs a favour or that guy who never acknowledges your presence to others yet tells you he really cares about you.
Don’t want to step into a cafe by yourself because others might think you must have a sad life to dine alone? Pay no attention to any of those thoughts and go on and do what makes you happy. Live your life the way you want to and, as long as something is legal and morally acceptable, go ahead and do it! And, if you don’t want others to judge you, don’t do the same to them either.
Don’t be so focussed on earning money and buying that impressive condo and brand-new car that you lose sight of actually living your life. Yes having money will certainly make your life more comfortable but the old adage that ‘money can’t buy happiness’ is true. What’s the point of living in a swanky house and driving a flash car when you don’t have any real friends or family who you can turn to and care about you?
Don’t want to apply for that position because you don’t think the time is right for you to change jobs? Don’t want to get involved with that nice guy who is so keen on you because you want to concentrate on your career and it’s not a good time to have a relationship? There’s never a ‘right time’ to do anything in life so go with the flow and make decisions according to what feels right for you. If you want something – or someone – don’t wait, just go for it. Stop procrastinating or making excuses.
Whether it’s a fad diet, the latest ‘in’ handbag or that TV series that everybody and their mother is raving about, don’t do something just because everyone else is doing it. Have your own identity and decide for yourself what’s best for you. Eat whatever you want, dress the way that makes you feel good and buy that pair of shoes because they’re really comfortable, even if they’re not from a famous brand. Everyone is unique so you just concentrate on being you, okay?
Never look back at what has already happened because you can’t change the past. Don’t waste time thinking about what could’ve been or what you should’ve done in any situation. Focus on the now and strive for a better future. Stop living in the past – that includes letting go of grudges – and move forward with no regrets.