“When Peter* and I started dating five years ago, we didn’t go through that initial passionate phase, during which we couldn’t get enough of each other. Most couples, early on in their relationship, tend to have quite a lot of sex and are openly affectionate with each other, but with Peter and me, it was different. That’s not to say there wasn’t any chemistry between us when we met, but our connection was more emotional than physical or sexual. We didn’t rush to sleep together and when we eventually had sex it was enjoyable. The earth didn’t move for me and we weren’t swinging from the chandelier – it was just nice, comforting sex.
Sex was never a priority for us then, and it isn’t now, after three years of marriage. My girlfriends think it’s strange that Peter and I only have sex once or twice a year, but it works for us and that’s all that matters.