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If you’ve landed on this page, you’ve probably been googling for advice and some variation of the words, “I was cheated on”. Well, the good news is you’ve come to the right place. The bad news is that you are going through a heartbreak, which means the next week to a month will not be the most pleasant time for you.
Being cheated on is one of the most gut-wrenching things a person has to go through and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Not only has your heart been torn in a million pieces, it can make you question yourself and worst still your self-worth. Aside from having to stomach the feelings of pain and inadequacy, it is also a very difficult and confusing spot to be in.
Cheating is one of those cruel lessons in life that has happened to most us at some point in life. As hard as it is to believe, even famous and beautiful starlets are not immune to being cheated on and heartbreak. In 2012, local actress Jayley Woo went through a highly publicised breakup with fellow actor Edwin Goh after the latter reportedly kissed actress Dawn Yeoh. Jayley eventually moved on from her heartbreak with the help of the people around her who reassured her that it was just a phase. She also revealed to local media that she was also able to gain closure when she stopped blaming herself for not doing enough in the relationship.
To help you keep your sanity and heal quicker, here are 3 ways you can heal after you kicked your cheating ex to the kerb. It won’t be easy by any means, but you will get through it, we promise.
Focus on yourself
First and foremost, take a deep breath and try to calm down. You can’t turn back time and undo something that has happened. It might seem like you hit a standstill but stay strong and take all the time you need to accept your current reality.
When you get cheated on or go through a breakup, what tends to happen is you fixate on our ex and even the person they cheated on you with and focus on how they did you wrong. It is also easy to slip into the mode of blaming yourself for the way things ended.
Rather than cyberstalking your ex and his new squeeze and playing the blame game, take this opportunity to examine and reflect on the good things that you did in that relationship, learn more about your expectations and bring that to your next relationship.
Surround yourself with people who would lift you up
If you bottle everything up for too long and replay how things ended over and over again in your head, when the time comes when you can’t hold it in anymore, everything will just come bursting out.
The thought of someone you love cheating on you is a hard pill to swallow. That is why you should open up to someone you trust. It could be a family member or your best friend. Talk it out and trust us, you’ll feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Also, don’t be afraid to consult the help of a professional. Don’t worry about being judged and be open and honest about what you went through. They are there to help you, not pass judgments.
Give your heart a break
In the words of wise Demi Lovato, give your heart a break. You might not get over it in the next week, month or even year but when you’re ready, you will make sense of what happened and move on.