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In an ideal world, we’d all get along with our friends’ boyfriends. Unfortunately, we’ll stumble upon a few bad eggs – not just in our dating lives but in our friends’ ones. too. Here are five things to do if you think your friend’s boyfriend is bad for her.

Don’t be superficial

Think about why you think he’s bad for her. If it’s just because he has a low-paying job or an awful dress sense, get over it. You don’t have the right to tell your friend that he isn’t good for her if it’s because of such superficial reasons. So, unless it’s something more serious, butt out of her relationship.

Give him a chance

If you’ve decided after meeting him just once that he’s bad news, you need to give him more time. Not everyone makes a good impression the first time, so cut him some slack. Take the time to get to know him and see if that changes your impression of him.

What’s the reason?

If he makes you feel uncomfortable, that isn’t a good enough reason to think that your friend should dump him – unless he behaves inappropriately when your friend isn’t looking, of course. It’s not about how you feel about him, it’s about whether or not he’s good for her. Don’t let your feelings or bias against him ruin your friend’s relationship – and your relationship with her, too. 

Be civil 

There’s no need for you to be rude to him, even if you don’t think he’s good for her. Be nice and polite towards him and engage in chit-chat like you would with any other of your friends’ boyfriends. Showing your disapproval will only upset your friend. And definitely don’t gossip behind her back as there’s a high chance you’ll lose her friendship when she finds out. 

Talk to her

If you have actual solid proof that he isn’t good for her – he’s cheating on her, or if he’s hitting on every other girl when her back is turned – it’s time to tell her. But don’t get judgemental and put him down. Instead, tell her that you care about her and that you don’t like to see her getting hurt by someone who obviously isn’t worth her time. And remind her that you’ll be there for her, no matter what she decides to do.