Having a casual celebration will be less work

Holding your celebration at an alternative wedding venue like a casual café might actually be more work.

Even without the bells and whistles of a hotel wedding banquet, a casual celebration would still involve sourcing for catering, flowers, décor, favors etc; not to mention having to first secure a venue that fits into your wedding theme and vision.

Taking the DIY route might be pocket-friendly but it’s definitely not easy logistically speaking.

One of the common refrains we’ve heard from our brides was how unprepared they were for the work involved when they decided to DIY their wedding.

The best approach would probably be to stay open and flexible during the planning stages and avoid feeling stressed out and disappointed when things don’t necessarily go your way.


The more costly option is better

Perhaps on a subconscious level, we’ve been attuned to believe that good things are expensive things.

While that isn’t completely wrong, but it isn’t completely right either.

When you feel unable to make a choice between A and B (or C or D), always remember to refer back to your wedding vision and budget.

Finding something that is suitable should rank higher than being influenced by the price point.


It’s not just about you

If you aren’t already aware of this, then its time you should be.

Even if it is your big day, you shouldn’t take it as a chance to be self-entitled and selfish.

Planning your wedding with the attitude that it’s your way or the highway, will soon make everyone unhappy, including yourself.

While the attention will be on the bride and groom, the entire point of a wedding is to celebrate with your family and friends the hard-won union of two imperfect persons who have managed to get this far despite everything.

Creating the right atmosphere and mood is key for a happy celebration; getting that perfect shade of pink and red for your wedding flowers isn’t.

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There must be an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen

…or that the bride can have only girls in her bridal party and vice versa.

We know plenty of couples who’ve had odd numbers for their bridal party and everything still went as per normal.

In fact, they had even more creative photo-shoot sessions with their bridal party. And the walk down the aisle? Just group them in odd numbers!

Forcing someone you aren’t close with to be part of your bridal party just to make up the numbers will be meaningless and uncomfortable for all the parties involved.


"The wedding is the biggest day of my life"

Your wedding is a milestone but it isn’t going to be the only one.

There’s no point in letting a single day control your mood and emotions for the entire year leading up to it. Take time to have fun and enjoy the process with your partner!

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