Image: Her World Brides March 2017/ Photography: Glen Sin
1. Family comes first
If you have a brother or sister and are close, he or she should be your maid or matron of honour/best man, or man of honour/best maid or matron. This will save you the hassle of having to choose between your close friends.
2. You can have more than one maid/matron of honour and/or best man
There are no rules when it comes to the number of people you’d like to have in your wedding party. Whether you’ve got a best friend and sibling, or more than one best friend who you’re equally close to, consider asking the both of them to stand up with you on the day of.
3. Pick the right qualities
You will need someone who is responsible, is physically, mentally and financially available to help (because you’d be doing him or her a disservice if he or she is swamped with other responsibilities), and has seen you undressed (especially for brides who might need help going to the washroom).
You also do not need: someone who’s self-centred, prone to histrionics, and so on. He or she should be your rock and anchor, and someone who’s able to support you while you go through the stresses of planning (and spending) for the wedding.
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4. The decision is yours
Don’t let anyone influence you on your decision, as you have to feel good about your choice ultimately. If you think you can’t choose between your group of friends, then have a group of bridesmaids and groomsmen and do without the maid/matron of honour and best man.
5. Look forward, not backward
When drawing up your list, choose people who can and are going to be committed from the start to the end. Also, don’t choose people based on the fact that you’ve stood up for them at their wedding before. These should be people who you can see in your life going forward.
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