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NAPE AND SCALP
Have your hubby gently touch, tap, stroke, kiss, suck or bite your nape, says Christina. You may also find it erotic when he massages your scalp firmly or tugs your hair. Not everyone will feel the same sort of pleasure. Some may find it relaxing, while others may feel sexually aroused and may even have an orgasm from just having their nape kissed or hair pulled.

WE TRIED IT!
Sharon*, 35, and Dennis*, 37, both bankers, married for eight years.
Sharon: “Dennis tugging my hair very gently during foreplay, while stimulating my genital area, got me very aroused. Then, he began kissing and nibbling my nape while still tugging at my hair. When we made love a few minutes later, I had an orgasm almost right away. I would never have considered my head and neck as erogenous.”

Dennis: “There was something very erotic and primal about pulling Sharon’s hair. At first I was scared to do it because I was afraid of hurting her, but she didn’t mind when I increased the pressure a little. I alternated between kissing, biting and licking her neck, which I found incredibly sexy and arousing.”

ARMPITS
Your underarms are packed with nerve endings and are very sensitive. Get your hubby to lick and stroke the area, suggests Martha. But while it’s pleasurable, you’re unlikely to get an orgasm out of it.

You may also find yourselves aroused by each other’s underarm scent, thanks to human pheromones believed to be present in armpit secretions. Pheromones make us seem more attractive to the opposite sex, explains Daryn.

WE TRIED IT!
Deana*, 28, an actuary, and Paul*, 33, an entrepreneur, married for a year.
Deana: “When I asked Paul to lick, kiss and stroke my underarms during foreplay, he gave me a funny look and went: ‘Eeeew.’ But after explaining they are a lesser-known erogenous zone, and of course, after cleaning my armpits, he licked around them and kissed them lightly all over. I was ticklish in the beginning, but soon got aroused, especially when he licked the sides of my breasts. I did not get an orgasm but it made me feel more amorous.”

Paul: “It sounded gross at first but I’ll try anything once. It also felt strange focusing my attention solely on her underarms, so to make things more exciting, I extended my attention to the sides of her breasts, which she enjoyed.”

TAILBONE
Various nerves pass close to your tailbone before branching out into your genital area. Stimulating it can deeply arouse and relax you. Ask your hubby to massage, kiss, stroke or lick your tailbone. Can it lead to an orgasm? With practice and allowing yourself to really experience the pleasure, it’s possible, says Daryn.

WE TRIED IT!
Lisa*, 38, a writer, and Ethan*, 39, an industrial designer, married for four years.
Lisa: “Ethan began by caressing my lower back, then gently scratching and caressing my tailbone. This was crazily arousing and I asked for more. When he kissed and licked the area lightly while massaging my bottom, the pleasure was off the scale. After 10 minutes, I was begging him to make love to me.”

Ethan: “It blew my mind seeing how Lisa responded. Who knew the tailbone was such a major erogenous zone? It gave her great pleasure. The sex afterwards was fantastic.”

WRISTS
Our wrists are very sensitive but we usually only use them to test if our baby’s milk is too hot. Put your wrists to a more adult – and pleasurable – use. Get your hubby to stroke, lick and kiss them. Don’t forget the area around it and halfway up the elbow.

WE TRIED IT!
Lyn*, 36, an insurance agent, and Michael*, 37, a teacher, married for five years.
Lyn: “I was ticklish the whole time Michael kissed and stroked my wrists. He had to stop after a couple of minutes because I was giggling uncontrollably. It was pleasurable, but not arousing. But the laughing relaxed me and we had lovely sex later.”

Michael: “I tried my best to make this as sexy as possible, but Lyn was so ticklish, she kept laughing, especially when I ran my lips along her inner arm. I did find kissing this part extremely erotic though, and was more aroused than she was.”

*Names have been changed