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The advent of texting has drastically changed the way men and women interact. Texting is ubiquitous in the modern dating culture because it is just so convenient. It is something you can do at any given time of the day or night.
However, with this convenience comes an added level of expectation and a whole host of problems that never used to exist. Prior to texting, it was perfectly normal if you went a day or two without hearing from your object of interest. Now, when you see the dreaded blue ticks accompanied with a lack of response, it sends your mind into overdrive. You start assuming the worst and you can’t stop overanalysing and overthinking the situation.
So, what should you do when you don’t get a text back?
Before you send that (less) passive (more) aggressive text along the lines of, “I knew you read my message! Don’t you love me anymore?” - remain calm and take no action. One of the most damaging things you can do is to assume the worst.
Rather than calling your guy out or assuming that he has lost interest, understand that there are many other reasons why you didn’t get a text back and more often than not, it’s not always about you. He could have been at work and couldn’t get to your text, or he didn’t have his phone with him or he genuinely missed your text.
Review your text
Revisit your text conversation and ask yourself if your text warranted a response. If your text clearly warranted a reply, you might want to give it a day or two before reaching out again.
Don’t be afraid to ask him out
Sometimes texting back-and-forth just isn’t feasible, especially during the day. Instead of engaging in a conversation that takes weeks to complete, spare yourself from the pressure of crafting a perfect reply and the anxiety of waiting to get a text back and ask him out on a date. The guy who is not texting you back could just be a bad texter who would rather set aside time to talk face-to-face.
Now, if you’ve already done all of that but you’re still not getting a response, it is time to move on. Instead of focusing your time and energy fixating on a guy, who right now, doesn’t deserve it, divert this attention back to yourself.
Keep yourself happy and your mind occupied by making plans with your girlfriends, going to the gym or spend time with your family. Make yourself the priority – in words of Taylor Swift, “there is nothing stopping (you) from going out with all of (his) friends.”
Communication is a two-way street. If he isn’t making the effort to communicate, then he isn’t worth a second of your time. Be thankful that you realised that it just wasn’t meant to be so you can save yourself the heartbreak.
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