Sex & Love
We asked women to share their secrets to never missing an orgasm. Whether you prefer clitoral, vaginal or G-spot stimulation, there’s bound to be a tip here for you
“I find it difficult to climax when I’m tired or stressed, so on those nights when I just want to sleep but my hubby wants to have sex, I think about all the things that turn me on. I like to fantasise about certain male celebrities, but also particular sexual scenarios with my husband, and I find that that gets my body humming every time. As soon as I start fantasising about something sexy, I can pretty much orgasm within a few minutes. It takes no physical effort on my part, just a bit of mental focus.” – Shirley*, 35, teacher Photo: 123rf ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX “I can’t have an orgasm unless I’m on top of my man or we have doggy-style sex. These are my favourite positions because they allow me to stimulate myself very easily. When I’m on top, I like to press my clitoris onto the base of my guy’s penis, and when we’re in the doggy position, I usually lean my left hand on the bed headboard while I stimulate my clitoris with my right hand.” – Brenda*, 42, lawyer Photo: 123rf ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX “I used to have trouble climaxing during missionary-style sex, until my friend told me about the C.A.T., which stands for Coital Alignment Technique. After some experimenting, I found that it actually works. You simply get into the missionary position, but have your partner slide his body up against yours until his shoulder is just touching your jaw. His hips should be at a downward angle and his pelvis should be aligned with yours. The base of his penis should also be in contact with your clitoris. Now get him to slowly and gently rock his body up and down instead of back and forth. This will ensure that his shaft is continuously rubbing against your clitoris. If you’re the kind of woman who can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation, this position is definitely for you.” – Gina*, 40, café owner Photo: 123rf ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX “Because my husband and I are always so busy, sex is usually a quickie in the morning or late at night. And since it takes me a while for me to orgasm during vaginal sex, what I like to do is indulge in a bit of masturbation right before the main event. That way, by the time my husband is ready to go and he starts to penetrate me, I’m already close to hitting the big O!” – Lee*, 38, designer Photo: Pexels ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX “What makes it easier for me to orgasm during sex is firing up my imagination beforehand. To get in the mood, I like to read my favourite trashy novels that describe sex scenes in graphic detail. Reading these specific parts of the story gets me so hot that, by the time I get to making love, I’m already so turned on that I’m practically aching to release all that sexual tension.” – Cheryl*, 35, property manager Photo: 123rf ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX “Unfortunately, I don’t feel much when my guy thrusts his penis in and out of me because I need clitoral stimulation in order to climax. So to ensure that I get there every time, my man makes it a point to masturbate me while he’s inside of me. He either stimulates my clitoris with his thumb or, if I’m on top of him, he uses the knuckle of his index finger to rub my sensitive spot. It never fails!” – Jasmine*, 32, writer Photo: 123rf ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX “If your man has a relatively long and thick penis, your best bet is to have doggy-style sex. My husband is quite well endowed, so when he enters me from behind, his penis hits my sensitive G-spot. If you get your guy to continuously thrust hard and fast, you’ll start to feel the pleasure build up from the inner front wall of your vagina, where your G-spot is located. You’ll be seeing fireworks in no time.” – Lauren*, 33, sales manager Photo: 123rf ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX “I love the woman-on-top position because it gives me the opportunity to grind my clitoris against the base of my husband’s penis. It also allows for deeper penetration, which is stimulating for him, too. Once I’m comfortably on top of him, I swirl my hips in an anti-clockwise direction, slowly at first, before building up the speed. All the while, I make sure that my clitoris is in contact with his shaft. Works every time!” – Rebecca*, 42, fashion buyer Photo: 123rf ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX “It sounds silly but I am so in love with my man that I can climax just by looking at him. Whenever we have sex and he’s on top of me, we make sure we maintain eye contact the whole time, or at least until I’m ready to orgasm. We even say sexy or naughty things to each other if we’re in the mood, and that turns up the heat a little bit. While we’re at it, I’m always overcome with emotion and that usually sets off some pretty intense orgasms.” – Catherine*, 30, writer Photo: 123rf ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX “Sometimes, I need something extra to push me over the edge. And that ‘something’ is dirty talk. It’s not for everyone, especially those couples who tend to be shy, but my husband and I love it. I tell him things like, ‘I love how you feel inside me’ and he might say something like, ‘Your boobs are so sexy’ – whatever gets us going at that particular moment. I can go from feeling super turned-on to super-orgasmic with just a few X-rated sentences. I don’t know why, maybe talking dirty just makes me feel naughty.” – Lisa*, 38, real estate agent Photo: 123rf ALSO READ: 10 EPIC SEX TIPS FROM 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN WHO ALWAYS HAVE GREAT SEX
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