The missionary position is a favourite of many couples – and why not? It’s intimate, allowing for extreme eye and body contact; plus, it doesn’t require much physical effort, at least on your part.
And, unlike other positions that require you to contort your body or be an acrobat, The Missionary is pretty basic, which is good news for those of you who are neither fit nor flexible.
But this popular man-on-top position does have a couple of drawbacks. For many women, climaxing this way isn’t always possible through penetration alone.
For the most part, you’ve probably found that you’ve had to stimulate your clitoris manually while your man was inside of you in order to achieve orgasm. This can get tiresome after a while.
The Missionary can also get a bit boring if you do it often enough (how many times have you stared at the ceiling while your guy was on top of you, and wondered how much longer you would have to lay there?)
If you’re one of those women who wished that your go-to position could be more exciting, you’re in luck. Here are eight ways to spice up The Missionary and, while you’re at it, increase your chances of climaxing.
With this position, all your man has to do once he’s inside you is slide his body upwards a few inches, so that the base of his penis is touching your clitoris. At this angle, his penis will rub up against your sweet spot as he thrusts in and out of you, making it easier for you to climax. Ask him to move his hips clockwise or anti-clockwise, or to move in a gentle rocking motion (instead of up and down), as this will feel more pleasurable for you (it will feel like you’re masturbating yourself, which of course is a good thing).
The only uncomfortable aspect about the C.A.T. is that your man’s body will be higher up over you than usual, so you’ll probably have his chest rubbing against your face while he moves. This may make it harder to look into each other’s eyes, kiss, nibble on each other’s earlobes or whisper sweet nothings into each other’s ears, but hey, if you’re pretty much guaranteed an orgasm then we’re sure you can overlook these minor inconveniences!
Image: Giphy
ALSO READ: True story: “I was forced to cover up my boss’s affair to protect his wife”
Instead of spreading your legs, keep them closed and then let your partner get on top of you. He should straddle you, so that your legs are in between his, and not the other way around. Once he enters you, be sure to squeeze your thighs together as tightly as you can. This move not only makes penetration more pleasurable for him, but it increases the friction while he thrusts in and out of your vagina and amps up your chances of achieving orgasm as his penis presses against your clitoris.
Image: Giphy
ALSO READ: True story: “I was forced to cover up my boss’s affair to protect his wife”; Some men are too ‘big’ for condoms…and other contraception myths to know before your weekend date; True story: “I’m a cougar magnet”
After your man enters you, lift your legs as high up as you can and rest the backs of your knees up against his shoulders. Ask your man to kneel between your legs and crouch over your upper body, so that he feels more comfortable. Your buttocks should be lifted slightly off the bed.
This position helps intensify the amazing sensations your man will experience while he penetrates you – he will be able to penetrate your vagina deeply and his penis will feel “snug” inside of you. At the same time, you will feel extreme pleasure the deeper he goes, since his penis will be pushing against all those nerve endings in your cervix. This position also allows for easier stimulation of your G-spot.
Image: Giphy
ALSO READ: True story: “I was forced to cover up my boss’s affair to protect his wife”; Some men are too ‘big’ for condoms…and other contraception myths to know before your weekend date; True story: “I’m a cougar magnet”
Get your guy to kneel in between your legs. Lift your legs and cross them at the knees. Then rest your legs on your man’s chest. He can hold on to your ankles for support. Much like the Legs Up position, this position creates more friction and allows your man to penetrate you deeply. Remember to keep your thighs pressed closely together so as to increase that pleasurable “tight” sensation.
Image: Giphy
ALSO READ: True story: “I was forced to cover up my boss’s affair to protect his wife”; Some men are too ‘big’ for condoms…and other contraception myths to know before your weekend date; True story: “I’m a cougar magnet”
If you love doing it doggie style, this position will put a smile on your face. Lay on your left side, supporting yourself with your left elbow. Now ask your man to kneel between your legs so that he’s straddling your left leg. Wrap your right leg around his waist – this will allow him to enter your vagina from behind.
This position makes it easy for your partner to penetrate you deeply and stimulate your G-spot. Plus, your hands are free to roam wherever you please, so go ahead and massage your breasts and nipples (your man will have a perfect view of you pleasing yourself, which will in turn heighten his own arousal).
Image: Giphy
ALSO READ: True story: “I was forced to cover up my boss’s affair to protect his wife”; Some men are too ‘big’ for condoms…and other contraception myths to know before your weekend date; True story: “I’m a cougar magnet”
Lie on your back and ask your man to squat between your legs. As he penetrates you, he should lift your buttocks and your lower back off the bed. Wrap your legs around his waist or just let them hang down the sides of his body, whichever is more comfortable for you. In this position, you can massage your breasts, nipples or clitoris, or allow your hands to wander all over your guy’s chest and abs.
Image: Giphy
ALSO READ: True story: “I was forced to cover up my boss’s affair to protect his wife”; Some men are too ‘big’ for condoms…and other contraception myths to know before your weekend date; True story: “I’m a cougar magnet”
Lie on your back and have your partner kneel between your legs. Get him to lean back slightly so that his buttocks are resting on his ankles. Now ask him to penetrate you (you may have to lift your butt up slightly – if this feels uncomfortable, prop a small pillow up against your butt). Your guy can hold on to your butt or hips while he thrusts in and out of you. Alternatively, get him to stay still while you do all the work – keep your knees bent and your hips raised, and thrust away.
However you approach this position, it will feel good for the both of you. While he’s thrusting, drive him (and yourself) crazy by stimulating your clitoris or playing with your nipples.
Image: Giphy
ALSO READ: True story: “I was forced to cover up my boss’s affair to protect his wife”; Some men are too ‘big’ for condoms…and other contraception myths to know before your weekend date; True story: “I’m a cougar magnet”
This move will make the standard guy-on-top position oh-so-hot. While you’re having missionary sex, grab a hold of your man’s buttocks tightly and push him as hard as you can towards you. In this way, you get to control the thrusting, plus, he will absolutely love your expression of lust and sexual confidence. At the same time, thrust your hips forward every time you pull him closer to you. As you develop a rhythm, you’ll notice how pleasurable these actions feel for him and you. When you’re both on the brink of orgasm, increase the speed of your thrusting and grab his butt cheeks even harder.
Image: 123rf.com
ALSO READ: True story: “I was forced to cover up my boss’s affair to protect his wife”; Some men are too ‘big’ for condoms…and other contraception myths to know before your weekend date; True story: “I’m a cougar magnet”